Put to the test…
The plan.
Don’t call him, let him call me…if he calls past 10, okay maybe 11, don’t answer. Maybe then would my so called “boyfriend” get the hint.
The problem.
I’m basically setting myself up for heartbreak. My “boyfriend” hasn’t called me since I decided on this. It’s been two days.
Two nights ago, we had an argument about how I don’t feel treated like his girlfriend. He did not understand.
Reasons for why I felt this way.
He hangs out with his friends EVERYDAY. He sees me once maybe twice a week and even on those days he hangs out with people before and after I am with him.
He cares more about his addictions than he does about me and expects me to accept what he does and not tell him how much I want him to stop.
I have to basically force him to hang out with me. He will not make the plans to hang out.
That’s not really all, but those are the main points. So am I asking for too much or is he really not what I need?
For once, I am not the one giving the advice…I am proving that even I am not as strong as I seem. I am asking for advice, so please help me. Help me figure out what should be done. I truly would appreciate it.
ali*b said,
December 31, 2007 at 4:25 am
What should be done?
You should let him know how you feel, and even if you know he doesnt understand, say it for your own benefit and sanity.
And you can’t hang on forever.
I don’t know you, or your boyfriend, but i can say this…the point of being in a relationship with someone is to love them and to be happy. They are supposed to make you happy. And if you truly love him then this is something you should work through. But if not, ask yourself…
overall, am i happier because i am with him?
and if not? maybe it’s time to end things.
because hanging on to a dead relationship just drains everyone invoved.
with his addictions….
if they bother you and you have told him this and if he doesnt care enough to even *try* to change…then maybe you need to take a step back. Do you really love him enough to be put second to an addiction?
try to make your own decision, but dont let yourself get used. My support and well wishes, good luck! If you need a helping hand, remember that there will always be someone there, a shoulder to cry on or a hand to guide….never forget the amazing people that are around you